An Amateur’s Guide to Living and Dying

Bearers carrying a coffin

Death has always been a taboo subject for many families. Even if there is someone in the household who has a terminal illness, many turn a blind eye to the impending sadness that will soon engulf everyone. Everybody feels the gloom, but nobody openly talks about it. It’s probably because of the fact that when death arrives, it does not only come with pain and sadness because of the loss. The death of a loved one carries with it a mirror where we can see our own fragile mortality.

You Can’t Stop Death, But You Can at least Prepare for It

Although there’s nothing you can do to avoid the pain and loneliness, with some measures — like getting an insurance if you have dependents, pre-planning the funeral service, or letting your family know whether you want to be cremated or be buried in a cemetery — you can at least ease some of the worries and financial concerns of your family when the time comes.

Lindquist Mortuaries and Cemeteries and other industry experts explain that you can show your family how much you care for them (even if you won’t be there physically) by making sure they won’t have to face problems in the future when you pass away.

Don’t Let the Thought of Death Eclipse Your Passion for Life

Don’t be too busy preparing for and thinking about death that you can’t live your life to the fullest. While making arrangements or planning for your own funeral should be taken seriously, don’t let the thought of death cast a shadow over your daily life. Go outside, bask in the sun, or board a plane — a grand adventure is still waiting for you.

Embrace the Impermanence of Existence

The Japanese have this aesthetic concept called Mono No Aware, which is the appreciation of the transience or ephemeral nature of existence. It strives to find beauty in sadness and the fleeting nature of life. Sogyal Rinpoche’s book “The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying” explains that embracing the impermanence of things is liberating and humbling. Ironically, age-old wisdom teaches that life can be fully lived if you bravely face death.

Liberate yourself from the fear of dying so you can live your life to the fullest, and don’t forget to spare your loved ones financial problems by making end-of-life arrangements.